And what it was telling me was that he was big-time dorky, made dad jokes, and tried too hard. He was a major departure from the string of "lax bros" that I hung out with in college (which was a good thing, but at the time I didn't realize that).
I'm no fashion snob, but his outfit was telling.
And what about all that emotional baggage that comes with a divorce – once bitten, twice shy? But over time, I had to repent of my prejudices and revise my assumptions.
Most of the divorcés I met actually had less baggage and fewer hang-ups than some of the ‘forever singles’!
If you have serious doubts about the person’s character, or credibility, or ability to do the right thing from now on, then it’s probably time to walk away.
But if this person who has hurt you has previously shown time and again a commitment to you and to your relationship—if this person has earned your trust throughout the time you’ve been together—then you may decide that the person deserves a second chance and that you can offer forgiveness for a momentary lapse. If you can tell that your partner has achieved genuine growth and insight from this painful experience, then you may want to at least hear out your partner’s request for a second chance.